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NOT DRINKING TONIGHT

Amanda E. White

A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love

A new approach to an old habit by licensed therapist and relationship expert Amanda White.
Amanda White's entrance point is more conversational and different than conventional 12-step models, in Not Drinking Tonight. In order to discover their root cause for drinking, White introduces and unpacks principles such as boundaries, shame, reparenting, and even attachment theory, sharing these fundamental psychology concepts with a new generation of readers. While the 80s and 90s saw the rise of codependent lingo and literature, White is one of the newer generation therapists who reframes this work for a new millennial+ audience.

Drinking is everywhere whether it's wine-o-clock or impromptini, alcohol often is a fundamental part of socializing and destressing. And it can seem black or white: you drink or you don't. If you fall into the latter camp, people automatically assume one of a few things: you're pregnant, you're taking antibiotics, or you're in recovery. Not Drinking Tonight is a book that helps women explore their relationship with alcohol in a new way and create a sober life they love.

The narrative threads are based on therapist Amanda White's three archetypal clients, following their journey in reevaluating their relationship with alcohol, understanding why they drink, and discovering how to stop. The women come from diverse backgrounds and range in the seriousness of their alcohol consumption, demonstrating a mild, moderate, and severe case of Alcohol Use Disorder. Each will come to a different conclusion about why they want to stop drinking by the end of the book, a framework that not only recalls Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, but also shares therapeutic tools and practices. Reflective questions help readers dig deeper into their personal experience and apply the concepts to their own lives. Where other sobriety or sober?curious books present various programs to stop drinking, Amanda's book first - and critically - addresses the root issues that cause us to reach for a drink, setting up the reader for long?term psychological healing and success.

We Are the Luckiest meets Quite Like a Woman in this accessible self-help/self-care hybrid aimed for those who question their relationship to drinking.

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice and wellness center, Therapy for Women in Philadelphia, and runs the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen (+260k followers) where she shares practices, tools, and insights on mental health and sobriety.
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Published 2022-01-04 by Hachette Go

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Published 2022-01-04 by Hachette Go

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Not Drinking Tonight is the book for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol or other addictive behaviors. I love how this book pushes us to examine what we've been taught about alcohol, how it's impacting us, and what we can do about it. This guide will help anyone who's ever felt stuck in their drinking habits, without slapping on scary labels or prescribing full sobriety.

As a therapist, this is the book about drinking I have been waiting for. Not Drinking Tonight offers a fresh perspective on substance misuse and gently guides you, with relatable examples, how to choose to stop drinking tonight, tomorrow, and - if you want - forever. Finally, a book on drinking that I truly believe in and am excited to recommend to my clients.

Amanda White and NOT DRINKING TONIGHT are featured in Philadelphia Magazine Read more...

Therapist and author of Not Drinking Tonight Amanda White shares her story of sobriety and walks us through the process and self-reflection for people who want to examine their relationship with alcohol and explore quitting or cutting back (and yes, we're chatting about the fear of dating and socializing sober). We're also discussing why our brains aren't made for the social media world and why it's ok to not be positive all the time. Read more...

I truly believe that anyone will benefit from reading this book, regardless of their relationship with alcohol. This book is such a great, relatable resource that will help us cultivate more self?awareness and compassion, while gently examining our relationship with alcohol, and ourselves.

In this episode I speak with Amanda E. White, therapist, retired party girl, and author of the new book Not Drinking Tonight about alcohol culture. This is a nuanced conversation about how we collectively relate to alcohol and sobriety, how alcohol misuse and eating disorders are intimately connected, the difference between alcohol addiction and "food addiction" and so much more. Read more...

Not Drinking Tonight is a wonderful guide to setting healthy boundaries with alcohol - and yourself. Amanda helps you dig into the root of your struggles to better understand why you drink and why you might want to stop??setting you up for a more fulfilling life all around, even if you don't choose full sobriety. Readers will gain the self?awareness, compassion, and confidence to make choices that better serve them.

This week, Erin and Sara sit down with therapist and author Amanda E. White. They discuss the impact of drinking and why it can cause anxiety, how to better understand our emotions, and tips for creating lives we love. Read more...

This book has such potential to make a massive difference for the lives of so many. Written in a smart, relatable style, and rooted in actual therapeutic expertise, Not Drinking Tonight is the self?help resource manual that we need. With a combination of therapy vignettes, research?driven education, and applicable tools and skills, Amanda walks readers through a journey of gaining a deeper understanding of their relationship to alcohol, regardless of addiction status. I especially appreciated the education provided around trauma and reparenting. Amanda's book is a resource that I know I will use for both myself and my clients for years to come - an absolute gift.

Not Drinking Tonight is so much more than a book about alcohol. Endlessly compassionate, and beautifully?researched, this book is a permission slip to evaluate your relationship to alcohol in a safe environment, as well as look at all the other factors that surround that decision. It's also a look into trauma, diet culture, and other societal conditioning through the lens of a relatable, thoughtful, and kind therapist. This book is the best kind of therapy.

A knowledgeable, compassionate, and supportive guide. With a wealth of examples, tools, practices, and new ways of relating to both alcohol and the self, Not Drinking Tonight will be an accessible and revelatory balm for anyone questioning the kind of life they want to create outside of drinking.

This week I am joined by Amanda White, Therapist and Author of Not Drinking Tonight. We are discussing our relationship with alcohol, disordered drinking and the overlap with Diet Culture. ? Read more...

Amanda White talks about the benefits of dating while sober in a Yahoo Life article that also mentions and links to NOT DRINKING TONIGHT. Read more...

Amanda White and RJ have a meaningful conversation about starting out in sobriety, the mindset shift that occurs when you enter recovery, and how you can take steps to be better with your emotions! Read more...

Anyone wanting to change their relationship with alcohol must be willing to do some deep self?examination. Amanda White's multi?layered approach offers empowerment, experience, and wisdom to those looking to begin their own journeys.

The conversation around sobriety is more present than ever, and this guest will have you thinking about your own habits, along with the mental health considerations that come with it... Read more...

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n this episode, our team member Kelly Fitzgerald Junco, chats with Amanda about her journey to sobriety, how she became a therapist, and her inclusive and passionate Instagram following. Read more...

In this gentle, forthright, and actionable book, Amanda White busts the myth that we need to be at rock bottom to ask for help. She challenges us to heal beyond the label we tie to our struggles and creates space for us to shed layers of shame, which keep us shackled to narratives of low self?worth. Whether you're newly sober, not?yet?sober, toying with the idea of sobriety, or never even contemplated a life beyond sobriety until this very moment, this book has gems of wisdom to offer you on your journey.

Amanda White and NOT DRINKING TONIGHT are featured in an article about sober curious in theSkimm. Read more...

Amanda joins Sober Stories host Beth Bowen to discuss how her eating disorder inadvertently led to her sobriety, the way her drinking had become like "Russian Roulette," and how her experience in the 12 Steps shapes her sobriety now. Beth and Amanda talk about her new book and dig into the intricacies of how the clinical mental health field is missing the mark regarding Alcohol Use Disorder. Amanda explains a new concept, "disordered drinking," and Beth and Amanda discuss how to open more doors for folks seeking to change their relationship with alcohol. Amanda shares what her story would be called (if she didn't already have a book out!): "Finding the Gray." Read more...

Not Drinking Tonight is an of?the?moment book that brings the #quitlit genre to the next level. White's writing about mental health and sobriety is just as helpful and accessible as her popular Instagram account.

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