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Sebastian Ritscher
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LOVE IN THE TIME OF ALGORITHMS

Dan Slater

What Technology Does to Meeting and Mating

Untold story behind the rise of online dating and what technology means for our relationships.
From its start as “computer-dating” at Harvard in 1965, the online-dating industry now serves a third of America's 80 million singles. Once considered the realm of the lonely and desperate, this phenomenon has been embraced by every demographic.
Dan Slater tells the remarkable story of how online dating is spurring on a new kind of sexual revolution. Thanks to the efficiency of the Internet, compatible mates are no longer a scarce commodity. Efficiency and control are altering our perception of what's possible in our personal lives and reconditioning our feelings about stability and commitment.
Blending history, psychology, and interviews with site creators and users, Slater takes readers behind the scenes of a fascinating business. Dating sites capitalize on our quest for love. But how do their creators' ideas about profits, morality, and the nature of desire shape the virtual worlds they've created for us and the relationships we engage in offline? Dan Slater is a widely published writer of journalism and creative nonfiction. A former legal affairs reporter for The Wall Street Journal, he is currently a contributor to Fast Company and has written for The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York magazine, and GQ.
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Published 2013-01-01 by Current

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Published 2013-01-01 by Current

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Like pretty much every other commodity in a digitally enhanced world, romance is now in abundance. But, as Slater deftly and entertainingly demonstrates, relegating love to the logic of algorithms changes not only who we end up with, but how we think about mating, relationships, human volition, and even fate.

Article by Dan Slater: Love in the technology era: Finding a date by computer is commonplace today. Not so in 1965, when two student-run companies at Harvard rushed to usher in a new era of mating. Read more...

Online dating is simply a necessity these days. People are so transient. As more and more people move to cities, the traditional American community is being lost. A few decades ago, it was totally normal to stay with one company, in the same town, for life. Now, people change jobs and locations with the seasons. We move away from friends and family for college, after college and throughout our adult lives. ... Lastly, in the era dominated by the conventionless hookup culture, online dating is a very direct way of making it clear that you're not interested in pursuing the status quo. You don't want to shut up and hookup, you want to go out to dinner. You want to date. That is doing wonders for monogamy.... Read more...

An enjoyable exploration of the evolution and implications of online dating. Read more...

WTF is up with online dating and the prevalence of technology in our love lives?! In this artful examination of our techno-romantic universe, Dan Slater offers an eye-opening look at the ways our very own behaviors and desires have been forever changed.

Review / Q&A about the Atlantic excerpt controversy: Online dating isn’t killing marriage! Despite his controversial piece in the Atlantic, Dan Slater doesn't think technology is destroying monogamy. Read more...

Love in the Time of Algorithms is a fascinating romp through the world of online dating. The book is packed with anecdotes about how people are adapting (or not) to love on the Internet, but Slater also asks the big questions: Can science predict love? And what does the abundance of choice unleashed by dating sites mean for the future of relationships?

Article by Dan Slater - A Million First Dates: How online romance is threatening monogamy Read more...

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Has the Online Dating Backlash Arrived? We live in the golden age of sexual convenience. The smartphone-enabled urban adult can order dates anonymously on Craigslist, find a soulmate algorithmically on OkCupid, or locate a partner geographically on Grindr. The UK’s dating site du jour, Bag a Bloke, is designed to look like online shopping, with product specs and a shopping cart. And why risk locking eyes across a crowded room without Chatroulette’s handy “next” button? In the Atlantic this week, Love in the Time of Algorithms author Dan Slater fretted that the facility of digital dating is making us bad at monogamy. But what if it’s just making us socially inept? ... Read more...

From the hilariously awkward beginnings of Harvard's computer-dating industry to the groovy Miami parties of the profession today, Slater expertly leads us through the biggest reshuffle in courtship in our lifetime (from here, the '60s and '70s look like Jane Austen). An astute investigation of the way technology may have remade the most important aspect of existence: love.

An irresistible read that details the efforts of computer scientists and entrepreneurs to solve the oldest of life's challenges: finding the right life partner. Neither a slam nor cel ebration of online dating, Slater's book makes it clear that mate finding really has changed forever, and like it or not, we're probably not going back.

One in five relationships now starts in front of a computer. But how did we get here? Dan Slater gives us a peek into the quirky minds of the dating executives who built the industry and the lives of those who have been forever transformed by the online-dating revolution. As one of those execs, I thought I knew the story. But with humor and fresh insight, Slater will change the way you think about love in a digital world.