DESIRE

As a therapist who has treated intimacy problems in hundreds of couples, Jay Stringer has seen the incredible power desire can render in our lives - for good and for ill. Desire fuels our search for romance, intimacy, and personal growth. But it also exposes us to some of life's harshest experiences: betrayal, heartache, and unfulfillment.

In a world that's quick to pathologize desire, validate unhealthy forms of it, or reduce it to surface-level "symptoms" like porn use, low sex drive, or infidelity, too many of us are walking this complex territory without a map. Informed by Stringer's clinical work and an original study of more than 4,000 individuals, Desire offers a liberating promise: that desire problems point the way to healing and growth. Every struggle we face, confusion we encounter, and heartache we experience is an opportunity to see our past and present selves with uncommon kindness and curiosity. Stringer shows you how to stop treating the symptoms and embark on a kind and powerful journey to heal past hurts, navigate relational conflict, and show up wholeheartedly in every realm of your life.

Filled with stories of people navigating childhood wounds, desire discrepancies, the harmful effects of purity culture, and professional confusion and burnout, Desire is a landmark work on one of life's most fundamental but least understood forces.

Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, researcher, international speaker and teacher, and author of the award-winning book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing and Desire: The Heart and Science Behind How We Give and Receive Love. He lives in New York City with his wife, Heather, and their two children.