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THE WAR FOR KINDNESS

Jamil Zaki

Building Empathy in a Fractured World

A Stanford psychologist offers a bold new understanding of empathy, and shows how we can expand our circle of care, even in these divisive times
Empathy is in short supply. Isolation and tribalism are rampant. We struggle to understand people who aren't just like us, but find it easy to hate them. Studies show that we are less caring than we were even thirty years ago. In 2006, Barack Obama said that the United States is suffering from an “empathy deficit.” Since then, things only seem to have gotten worse.

It doesn't have to be this way. In this groundbreaking book, Jamil Zaki argues that empathy is not a fixed trait—something we're born with or not—but rather a skill that we can all strengthen through effort.

Drawing on both classic and cutting-edge research, including experiments from his own lab, Zaki shows how we can harness this new mindset to overcome toxic cultural divisions. He also tells the stories of people who are living these principles—fighting for kindness in the most difficult of circumstances. We meet a former neo-Nazi who is now helping extract people from hate groups, ex-prisoners discussing novels with the judge who sentenced them, Washington police officers changing their culture to decrease violence among their ranks, and NICU nurses fine-tuning their empathy so that they don't succumb to burnout.

Written with clarity and passion, The War for Kindness is an inspiring call to action. The future of our society may depend on whether we accept the challenge.

Jamil Zaki is a professor of psychology at Stanford University and the director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab. His writing has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, The New Yorker, and The Atlantic
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Published 2019-06-01 by Crown

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"In this landmark book, Jamil Zaki gives us a revolutionary perspective on empathy: Empathy can be developed, and, when it is, people, relationships, organizations, and cultures are changed. Scientific, gripping, groundbreaking, and hopeful, The War for Kindness is the message for our times." —Carol Dweck, Stanford University, author of Mindset

“A wide-ranging practical guide to making the world better.”

"In a time when it seems empathy is a lost cause and compassion is a dying art, it may not be too late to revive the better angels of our nature. Jamil Zaki is one of the brightest lights in psychology, and in this gripping book he shows that kindness is not a sign of weakness but a source of strength." —Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B [with Sheryl Sandberg]

"Stanford neuroscientist Jamil Zaki's new book, The War for Kindness, makes a powerful case for kindness and empathy — not only because they make the world a better place, but because they help us, too." Read more...

“Relating anecdotes and test cases from his fellow researchers, news events and the imaginary world of literature and entertainment, Zaki makes a vital case for ‘fighting for kindness.' . . . If he's right—and after reading The War for Kindness, you'll probably think so—Zaki's work is right on time.”

"an earnest and well-researched call to action and an urgent message that will hopefully expand in Zaki's future work."

“In this masterpiece, Jamil Zaki weaves together the very latest science with stories that will stay in your heart forever.” —Angela Duckworth, author of Grit

UK: Little Brown; China: Cheers; Korea: Prunsoop; Russia: Mann-Ivanov-Ferber;

"Zaki's heart-of-the-matter writing style relates complex emotion in clear, direct language. He walks his own fine line, between significant research findings and his personal emotional and empathic responses. His research and his book are worthy."